अद्वेष्टा सर्वभूतानां मैत्रः करुण एव च | निर्ममो निरहङ्कारः समदुःखसुखः क्षमी || १३ ||
adveṣṭā sarva-bhūtānāṁ maitraḥ karuṇa eva ca nirmamo nirahaṅkāraḥ sama-duḥkha-sukhaḥ kṣamī
adveṣṭā—non-envious; sarva-bhūtānām—toward all living beings; maitraḥ—friendly; karuṇaḥ—compassionate; eva—certainly; ca—also; nirmamaḥ—without a sense of proprietorship; nirahaṅkāraḥ—without false ego; sama—equal; duḥkha—in distress; sukhaḥ—and happiness; kṣamī—forgiving.
“One who is without hatred toward all beings, who is friendly and compassionate, free from 'mine-ness' and ego, equal in pleasure and pain, forgiving —”
Beginning here, Krishna describes the qualities of the devotee most dear to Him — a portrait of the spiritually mature person. The list begins with 'adveshtaa' (non-hatred toward all) and 'maitra' (universal friendliness). These are not merely ethical virtues imposed from outside but the natural flowering of a heart that has recognized the one Self in all beings. Where there is no other, there is no one to hate.
Examine your own quality of hatred and friendliness honestly. Hatred or its subtler forms — resentment, dismissal, contempt — arise when we see others as fundamentally separate and threatening. The antidote is not suppression but the slow cultivation of seeing the same struggling humanity in others that we see in ourselves. Start with one person you find difficult.